Rita, my heart aches for Sunshine, but I am so very grateful that she has you and Mr. Pink to provide a safe, loving home. You just can't put a value on that kind of a gift.
Amy, I am also so glad to hear that you and B have a healthier, closer relationship today. I totally agree; your commitment to your program has made it possible, and it will benefit her greatly.
One of the things that still brings me a lot of sadness (and probably will for a long time) is the way my AH has never even tried to form a relationship with my daughters, and has marginalized them so much. They are such wonderful girls, and EVERY kid deserves better from a stepparent. But it is what it is, and all I can do is continue working on rebuilding our own homelife, showing them that we can continue to enjoy ourselves, be close, and refuse to let my AH be the most important person in the family all of the time.