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Alcoholics change a lot in the first years of recovery. What he is saying is true, to him.
. If he wants to end the relationship there isn,t any point in hanging on anyways.
You probably have that feeling because you don,t want to end the relationship.
QUOTE=KAHJPC2012;4246735]This is my first post after reading so many threads via the search engine but I finally decided I needed to post myself to get some advice.
Recently (1 month ago) my boyfriend of 11 months ended our relationship because he's changing so much in recovery he doesn't love me anymore. It happened over night, I went to bed the night before after telling each other we loved one another. The next evening he dropped this bombshell. He explained something inside him was telling him he needs to find his true self and to do so he can't love me. We speak daily and see each other still too.
I read Al Anon posts and forums and decided I would hand over my emotions, feelings to my understand of God. Ever since I started praying a few days after the split, I started to get this feeling, it's hard to explain it doesn't feel like my heart or my head but when I think about giving up it kicks in and tells me not to, that it's not time. My ex has said he wants me to be happy and give up but I know deep down that's him being selfless.
So I guess what I'm asking for is advice. Should I follow this strange feeling inside me and hold on? Has anyone experienced such dramatic changes in their RA?
I just need someone to comment who understands, non of my friend or family can relate and right now I feel alone and the only person who understands me in my RA![/QUOTE]