I totally agree with Lulu
Also your counsellors comments are totally inappropriate alluding to your husbands actions.
Even though he does sound like a misogynistic arse.
Bringing up that conversation about your sister in front of your 14 year old is a disgrace.
Teenagers have enough on their plates without listening to parental verbal diarreah .
I feel there is almost a sumliminal threat in your husbands comment ( no man will stick around if he doesnt get it ) knowing full well you are not putting out.
Maybe He needs to go to therapy in regards to being a nicer human being ( which I'm sure he was when you married him)
Better still go together or get out .
Good luck , i hope you find peace soon xx