Bluechair, You have been thru so much in such a short time...you know what an addict is and what they do while actively using...they manipulate, lie, lie and lie some more. Their prime priority is themselves. Rehab, did it work? This time? Might take a few attempts to see progress. It is a disease after all. What does your gut tell you? Do you have a plan or two. Do you want to live like this? Is this the same person you married? Getting tired of the blame, guilt and worry yet? I have double the concerns, 2 ADs. I find myself regaining some trust in the younger one, just alittle but it's coming back. Meetings have helped me, the face to face support, that I'm not alone has been a Godsend. You have tons to think about and tons of decisions to make. But, keep YOU as the priority, stay heathy, eat, rest, stop worrying or obsessing, smile for awhile. We will always be here for support, but you need to make this difficult decision. Good luck sweetly, you're in my thoughts and prayers. TF