Hi djyar,
I'm so sad to hear of your XAW's progression.
I'm experiencing something similar - my SAH (legally separated AH) is on a spiral downwards, fast and furious. In a matter of less than 3 weeks he has a DUI, attempted suicide, and is now hanging out with the homeless in our city in his free time (walking miles to go there) - mentally he is no longer there but manages to keep his job due to its artistic nature. It's TOUGH....I will say I do think it's ok to call 911 on her if you think her life is in danger. That's what I plan to do for the next suicide attempt (I handled the first one poorly).