My experience with it was totally ineffective. New beginnings' point of both people needing to want the same results is important for counseling, as far as I am concerned. My ex said he wanted to be married, but he wasn't interested in learning any new ways of handling marriage. So he kept doing the same thing and wondering why the results were the same, until we both finally reached a breaking point.
I didn't want a divorce, but I didn't want to be married anymore, either. Not like that, under those circumstances.
Instead of focusing on what he wants or doesn't want, what do you want? Really, truly want? For me, what I wanted was unrealistic, I found out in the end. I wanted him to be the man I thought he was when I chose to marry him. I hated having to come to terms with my own fantasies. That was the hardest thing to accept...my own distorted reality of who he was.