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BookNerd The only thing I can think of is that he is afraid if I start doing the "man" things around here I will think I no longer need him. But if he felt that way, wouldn't he want to um, actually DO something once in a while? Because right now, no, I don't really need him. He pretty much does nothing but get drunk and high, and watch movies, when he is home. What is useful about that?
Nah - he'd have to reduce his drinking/sleeping in a hang over time if he did those things. he can feel like a man just knowing that you can't do those things. Not because he doesn't allow you to, but because you couldn't - in his mind.
the mind of a drunk... half denial, half conniving, full selfish.