I actually wrote that post at 4:00pm, but somehow it didn't submit ...
He came home very shortly thereafter, both of them sober, which is great... But I still didn't care. He and his buddy are taking over the great room with more football and burgers, and I'm letting him have some space. I am happy in my office/den with my music and my iPad.
I'm not sure if that is detachment or just giving him space...