Wavy-
I agree with everything else that was written.
I just want to acknowledge that for me, even without any trauma/PTSD stuff as part of it, the first time I ran into anyone associated with my ex was a year or so after the fact....and it sent me into a tail spin for a while.
Add the other layer and it is exponentially harder.
I think what I am trying to say is this stuff is hard, it was only made harder when I felt like I "should" be over it sooner.