Originally Posted by
AnvilheadII 
might i suggest no more date nights? you are attempting to have NORMAL while living with CRAZY and it won't work. it will not work the way you dream hope or envision.
HIS Priority is to......DRINK.
his second priority evidently is to keep you constantly on the beat down, to use you as his personal whippingboy/scapegoat/target...of all his pent up crap.
time to get really REAL about what is REALLY going on. face it head on and deal with it. he is an abusive alcoholic. he can't be that "sharing a bowl of popcorn watching a movie" guy. he doesn't see you as a partner or an equal, he doesn't even really SEE you at all anymore.
get out of the house more, get away from him more and see what that feels like. to be able to breathe, speak your mind, take yourself to a movie and WATCH the whole thing. and ask yourself why you keep going back? what REALLY holds you to someone who is so horrid to you?
I love that you put scapegoat in there.
Ah feels as though everyone uses him as the scapegoat. How sad how twisted that perception is. Im not one to put down someones feelings so im sure at one time or another he did feel like that. However thats exactly how he treats others regardpess if he wants to see it or not. He becomes a bully and its actually pretty sad how much he hates bullies but then again...he hates himself.