When I asked my XAH to leave, he did. I think he was trying to "teach me a lesson" and he really didn't think I meant it. I think it was a poker play and he thought he was calling my bluff. But I changed the locks as soon as he was out. I wasn't kidding. It took me five years to get to the point that enough was enough......and once there, there was no turning back.
Take care of you.
gentle hugs
ke