Apparently, there is nothing like living through an experience to really get an education about it...there is so much to learn and process when dealing with this disease; it's unbelievable. Sounds like you are doing pretty well, it takes time to strengthen our skills and put them into action.
It took me about four months to gain the courage to kick AH (now RAH) out of the house after I started seeking treatment. Once I made the decision to do it though, nothing was going to stop me. He's been out of the house about six months, stopped drinking about four months ago. We both want to work on our marriage, but we're both focused on our recoveries right now and are not yet ready for marriage counseling, which I want before he comes home.
So, I get it, it's really tough. It takes time and lots of baby steps...and we only have dogs. I know kids complicate matters more.
Thanks for sharing your story today.