Originally Posted by
Weaver 
I guess I am just afraid to do it alone. I've severed my trust ties with my wife so it will take action, not words
You don't have to do it alone.
a) We are here for you
b) Why don't you join a face to face support group? I am in AA and really recommend it but if you feel more comfortable with a secular solution, look up SMART recovery. I heard good things about them.