What people do not realize is that in addition to tangible addictions, like alcohol and the like, we also get addicted to behaviors. I read a book recommended by a therapist and it made me see this...believe me, it took a lot of thinking a after reading this comment, behaviors of a loved one are addicting too. The book is Women Who Love too Much. This book is as good for men as for women. My relationship with my ex was like a hurricane. I got out, thank God. This book helped a lot! Good luck! L