ABF Hiding his money - using again ?
Hello all
I don't know what I am waiting for - a brick to fall out of the sky?
My ABF gave me access to his checking out online last month b/c of repeated relapses
In the hope I guess that I would call him out on misappropriation of funds!
He hasn't deposited a pay check - a full paycheck into this account since we started this -
So how can I monitor?
He is most likely cashing his paycheck and when I call him out on it - he gets all defensive (addict garbage thinking I know!)
So - did he pay his rent this month? No clue
Is he going to meetings like he is supposed to? NO
Does he work w/ a sponsor on steps? Not since I Have known him really
I can only guess he is spending this money on-----Drugs right? I don't know what to think except I am not thinking
I am supposed to go visit (he lives out of town to boot) to go to a baseball playoff game tomorrow-
I Have to rearrange my life to do this and I am excited or was excited to do this until I started thinking again- This is an expensive weekend away for me lots of driving - have to board my dogs
And I don't want him HIGH or strung out on a post binge high - that was what August was all about
How can I approach him today w/o causing this backlash I am expecting ?
Should I even bother?
Thanks
Carla