The judge believes this is us just not being cooperative. The same mindset of therapists who work w couples when one is NPD. Am I blameless? No. The mediator we saw years ago said it was useless bc HE was un bending, not me. The judge is buying whatever xAH says bc I have the charges now so his word must be true, right? My credibility sucks bc he's an abuser who has had charges brought on me. My behavior isn't the problem but no one in power cares what the truth is.
And the morning he hit me my contribution was to tell him to back away from me or I would call the police. He took my phone and punched me. Then said go ahead and call. I did and went to the ER and have photos. I had a red face, swollen jaw, broken necklace and bruises already forming and the cops said it was "verbal only". A week later they came to arrest me saying witnesses came fwd that I hit him.
And the judge didnt seem to care that this is all ass backwards.
I guess when I'm a statistic of cops getting it wrong they will care then.