WTBH, my only suggestion is to get creative. Start harassing your lawyer for alternative solutions, because the court is setting you up to get murdered in your own damn home.
The exchanges have to happen at your house? Fine! A police escort needs to be present considering the violence that continues to happen (blamelessly and passively, apparently?) at the custody exchanges. Don't ask anyone, just call ahead to the local PD and ask that someone escort the exchanges. I know they're not your friends, but they don't have to be. You're trying to ensure you don't get punched in the face for following court orders. STXBAH won't punch you in the face if cops are present -- if he does he's straight to jail, and if he doesn't go straight to jail, you have an epic civil rights suit on your plate.
Also, you *can* record anything. Whether or not this is admissible in court is another thing. But you can record whatever you want in and around your home. Whoops! My smartphone just happened to be recording this conversation. My bad! And you can remind him that whatever he does is now on record. Even seen a narcissist shut up and/or hang himself with his own rope? Let him know others that don't have his back may see his crazy.
Is the financial part of the divorce final? Curious about who "owns" the house. It's not your problem if AH is homeless. Instruct your lawyer to beat the drum about his pending DCYF cases. If there's smoke, there's fire.
And finally, what are you willing to give up? If I were you I'd be planning how to get out of the toxic living situation ASAP my any means. Even if your AH suddenly left you alone, which won't happen, you're still butted up against toxic, alcoholic, perjuring, meddling, broken people. Talk about this with your lawyer. If you leave the house, what happens to the equity in it?
I'm sorry you're going through this. My experience with my xNPD was that this level of antagonization did not end until the court finalized our split. By then I was a shaking leaf and it took a long time to get my bearings again. There are things you can do to get others to help you, but some of this has to be from within you, refusing to take the bait, not letting it get to you in a real and fundamental way. Changing this from the situation that will ruin you to a situation that you find annoying but endure while you pursue the next best thing. That backbone needs to be made of steel. You want that back waxed so his **** slides right off of you.
How are you coping? What are you doing for yourself? How to you heal inbetween the explosions? Is his violence against you documented? Can you press charges for him hitting you?