That would be my parents. Both exhibiting narcissistic traits. Which came first the chicken or the egg? Were they narcissistic or did they just have the traits?
Does it matter? Nope...same results.
Mother--codie to tyrannical raging abusive father.
Then mom became a falling over drunk. Then a sober minister.
Dad died as angry as a barnyard dog.
Mom's amends were--out of the blue with no references--"You do believe in forgiveness right?"
"yes" I squeak.
"WELL THEN!" in that tone of voice implying I am not living up to her expectations. End of discussion.
Wow, as amends go, those were amazing, eh?
Think of Archie Bunker as physically abusive, and Edith as an alcoholic.
Everyday was physically and emotionally abusive and chaotic in my house growing up, and I had no idea that other people didn't live in a war zone.