I am going to keep my focus narrow and on chapter 8.
As the husband of an AW, separated 2 and a half years, married for 36 when I left, I found the chapter to be insulting.
It minimized my pain and my opinion, and placed me in the position of supporting her in her recovery.
It was not written in a way to be supportive of the spouses of alcoholics. To me the whole chapter was quacking.
Of course that is just my opinion so take what you want and leave the rest.
Your friend,