Originally Posted by
Lewis73 
Lost as to what to do....her parents dont want to know (dont know how to help).....I know if I chat to her friends she will never forgive me (and they probably see me as the cause of her drinking, as she does)
I'm starting to question whether I really am the cause of her drinking?????
OK. WE HAVE BEEN THERE DONE THAT AND HEARD THAT.
Let me tell how my (stupid) question like that went.
Me -- At an Alanon meeting. All the rest women, mostly older.
I sat there, lip quivering, saying "What do you do when they say it is Your Fault?"
The all just look at me. And they all started laughing. Some just about rolling on the floor. You know Just How Bad it Sucks to Be Laughed At By A Roomful of Older Women?
Finally they stop when they see I am about to cry.
One looks at me and says -- "HONEY! We have all heard THAT, too!
And they went back to laughing. I started laughing, too, and now laugh most of the time, too.
Same to you --
"HONEY! We have all heard THAT, too!
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And then there is this . . .
maybe I should leave?
Right now she hates me, wishes I was dead - wants me gone.
AND
and now my 17 year old tells me she wants to move out and live with her gran because of her mum......my wife doesnt care, says she hates her daughter and she was a big mistake.
NO.
Drunk Wife should leave, you and the kids run the house without her.