Alcoholism is a progressive disease and it is going to get worse unless SHE makes the choice to stop drinking and work a program. The sucky part about that is she isn't ready to stop, so she isn't going to for you or anyone else. So, your options are to attend Al-Anon and figure out how to find peace and serenity at home amidst the chaos of alcoholism, or to attend Al-Anon and figure out how to find peace and serenity out of the home away from the chaos of alcoholism. Do you want to be here dealing with this x100 in five years? 10 years? 20 or more? These are things you need to think about. But first, and most importantly, get to Al-Anon.