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Old 09-22-2013, 04:08 PM
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Recovering2
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Dear cm87, gad you found this site. Your wife is an Alcoholic. Her refusal to acknowledge that doesn't make it any less true. Learn the 3C's: you didn't Cause it, can't Cure it, and can't Control it. It is a progressive disease, and without treatment she will get worse. But as an adult that's her choice. There is nothing you can do about it.

She will make her choices, but then let her experience the full consequences of those choices, don't step in to soften the blow. If she sleeps in for work, let her. Let her figure out what to tell her boss. There are alot of people out there with depression who don't turn to the bottle for answers, she is just looking for excuses. And if you get in the way of her drinking she will blame you too. Don't listen.

You are 26 YEARS OLD. You have been married for 1 year, you SHOULD be sick of sleeping alone at this point! You deserve a true partner. The sad fact is her first love is alcohol. If we could love our partners into sobriety, there would be no alcoholics! You can't change her, but you can change yourself. PLEEEZ find an AlAnon meeting near you. There is so much wisdom, acceptance, support, experience in those meetings. Read the sticky's at the top of this page.

Ask yourself what you want in a life partner, what you want in a life. You deserve those things.
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