cm87

Hi, I'm new to this forum and am looking for advice. I have been married almost one year, I am and 26 and my wife is 27. The reason for this post is that my wifes drinking is causing problems in our relationship. She is a wonderful person who I love so much, but when she drinks it's a totally different situation. She generally drinks about 2-2/12 boxes of wine a week. She drinks usually everyday, unless she gets extremely intoxicated and then she will usually skip a night. We have had problems with her and alcohol many times in the past. I have voiced my concerns time and time and time again with her and it always falls on deaf ears. I usually get responses like, I will do better or ok or I don't want to talk about it. It is very rare that I drink, maybe a glass or two of wine once or twice a month. Due to this, she is drinks by herself and stays up until the early morning hours. It is causing her to be late for work sometimes. For instance, this morning she was 2 hours late to work and would have been even later had I not woke her up off the couch. When I tried to talk about the fact that she was late, she began to cry and the subject was changed to her depression. I feel that the drinking and the late nights are making her depression worse. It is rare that we sleep together because she usually stays up on the nights she drinks and does random house chores or watches TV. On the nights she gets really intoxicated I will find her on the couch. What makes this even more difficult is that she deals with depression and anxiety. So, when I talk to her about her drinking it makes her depressed, which causes me to back off on talking about the subject. She replies with things like, you're just so perfect and you never do anything wrong. I feel that she's just trying to turn the conversation onto me. Her aunt, whom she is very close with, is currently undergoing chemo therapy and she is having a very hard time with it. She tells me that she doesn't drink because she is sad. She says that she doesn't mean to get drunk and that it just happens. I have a hard time believing this. When she gets heavily intoxicated, she crys and has panic attacks which then turns to anger because I "don't understand". The next day, she doesn't remember any of what she does and when I tell her she says that she doesn't want to relive it. I'm almost at my breaking point. I feel that she has a problem with alcohol and needs to seek help and stop. However, she stands by the fact that she doesn't and says that she just likes drinking wine. A few more things, and forgive me for rambling but I have alot built up inside. She admitted to having a problem with alcohol back in 2010 when she was drinking beer every night and getting intoxicated, which then led to a suicide attempt. She laid off for awhile but soon she was back at it, only to switch to wine. I feel that it is slowly taking over our relationship, as I can't have a relaxing night in my home when she is drinking. I'm tired of sleeping alone and I'm tired of my concerns falling on deaf ears. I could continue on with more, but I feel I have given you guys enough for a starting point. Any advice is greatly appreciated and please let me know what you think.