It took me a very very long time to not believe all the very painful things said to me!! It was said so much I started really believing these awful things, I was convinced! But then as I regained my stable ground, & would prove to myself he was wrong by my own actions & behaviors, I saw that no matter who or how I was he still saw what he saw in the mirror ..... It wasn't me. Now if he starts in, I can care less, I know better and I lay my own head down at night knowing who I am what my own soul is about, my actions match my words, and his are just that ......... Words!!!