He got used to you doing those things. You actually gave him more time to drink. Once you stop it, like you said, he will call on others. Thing is, you won't have any control in having them stop. As long as you stop, that's all you have to worry about. YOU! If he fails, that's his problem. That is a consequence and it will need to be felt by him. The sad truth is, that when someone loves an A, we feel the consequences everyday. They seem to not have any. Why? Because of that one little word.... enabling. We are as sick, if not sicker than they are when it comes down to it. What we think we are doing when we take care of things that we think need to be done, sets a seed in them that grows and they then feel like you should keep watering it. What really happens is you're watering a plant that will eventually grow stickers, grab you by the leg and sucks you into the depths of hell just like the movies but it's real life!
You sound like you're on your way.
