Once you start devoting all your time to YOU n the kids and take it off of him, you will see a BIG change in the dynamics of your relationship. The enabling we have done has not helped any of our A's. I have noticed that when I turned the all my attention I was giving to my AH back to ME where it belonged, he knew something was different and he felt for the first time that I was taking something away from him and it scared him. He asked me, Who are you talking to?! It changed everything for ME and it was GOOD!
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