Do you think he will answer your call or text? My A wouldn't have which would anger and worry me even more. I eventually learned he'd either be home when he felt like it, or if "something happened" I'd hear soon enough.
I don't know how to answer is it controlling, it seems like he is controlling you and the mood of the house by night getting in touch with your.
However, in the very beginning of our relationship when he would do this, I'd get mad, he'd get mad, said I was controlling, I would tell him that when I stopped asking or caring that would be trouble.
Well, I've stopped asking. Pretty much I've stopped caring too. Now that is sad.