It sounds as if he doesn't like that you are standing up for yourself because it is causing him to actually consider that the drinking MIGHT be a problem and anything that threatens the drinking is a direct threat to an A. It doesn't sound like he is taking any accountability for his behaviors. You are right for standing up for yourself. I would have done the same thing. Domestic violence is never OK in any relationship. A partner should treat you with respect. You deserve someone who treats you well. Alanon has been wonderful in teaching me to value myself first. It sounds like it has helped you too.