we are always the victims and its always someone elses fault. my S H put up with me for 6 years then when I came out 3 weeks ago he said he couldn't cope any more. I didn't understand at first I thought hed be pleased. After 15 aa meetings im starting to understand what I have done to him and what hes had to live with. ive never been violent just nasty. Our beautiful home is now for sale somewhere my h always wanted to live and ive ruined that for him . ill never be able to make amends for my selfish behaviour. I never could apologized either because 1 I couldn't remember 2 I didn't want to remember 3 I would have to admit im an alcoholic. Hope this helps you to see how the a mind work( warpped). TIME FOR YOU LIKE MY H TO LLOK AFTER YOURSELF AND LIVE A WONDERFUL LIFE. good luck for the future. only 21 days sober but trying hard. xx