What are the chances that he will stay sober without a program?
Zero to none
What are the chances that it really is relationships that keep him in his addiction and that without our relationship he will stay sober
It's not about any relationship with others he has never was and never will be......it's about the lack of relaitonship he has with self.
This was never about you and it will never be about you. It was never about his ex-wife and it will never be about her either.
He was a drunk when you met and fell in love with him, he remained a drunk through out your relationship and he probably always will be if he continues to blame others for HIS lack of character and humility.
If you look closely at the word BLAME……bla….bla…..bla….me
HIM: Quack, quack, quack….it’s all about me …….and I don’t want to take responsibility for my own choices so let me blame the innocent victims in my life and lay that on them cause I know they’ll hold onto it for me.
Keep going to al-anon, keep reading as much as you can about addiction and what addicts do.