Originally Posted by
honeypig 
Lewis, I would just like to remind you that alcoholism is a progressive disease.
She doesn't drink and drive w/the kids in the car--yet.
She isn't abusive until later at night--yet.
Things don't seem too bad to you--yet.
But the unfortunate thing is, you don't get a timeline to look ahead on and go "OK, on March 16th, she WILL decide to drink and drive and she will kill one of the kids and an innocent person driving another car, so the day before THAT is when I'll need to take action."
It's not that bad until it suddenly IS that bad. You get no advance warning when it's going to happen. And the damage may be repairable and it may not.
I think this bears repeating...
Yet, yet, yet. These things haven't happened YET.
You think it's not that bad and then one day you wake up & your whole world is changed & it IS that bad & you realize it HAS been for a long, long time. Something will happen to change the balance - she'll misjudge her intoxication level & try to drive, her tolerance will change & suddenly drop, etc.