I've had my kids in therapy to get them the help they need dealing with their insane mother. Professional people know when to pull the plug in these situations and it can really help IF push comes to shove - in the mean time, they are getting the help they need growing up well adjusted - one of your kids is all ready not speaking to her. An ideal mum? NOT! And she isn't the worst of them either - some where in between - but still - point is = we want the best for our kids --
So often good is the enemy of best, isn't it?