the problem is i run my own business - so i need the huge amount of help she does provide......if i kick her out i would really struggle to work and look after 4 kids and the house.
a functioning alcholic is still better than nothing when it comes to domestic chores!
but you are right.....she is 100% enabled. she has lots of money, me to drive the kids.......and she uses "us" to hide from the crap.
good example....she has booked us a holiday for xmas now that we are a family again. 17 yr old doesn't want to go....i asked her why (literally, just chatted with her) she said the only reason she booked the holiday was because xmas at home would just highlight how all her family (and mine) dont come round any more....because they either dont know how to help, have been told by her to get lost.....or she hates them (because they do things like worry about the kids....which she takes offence to!!!!)