What can you do to help him? You may not understand what I'm about to say, but stay on here and you will eventually. If you want to help him....get out of his way. Don't throw yourself into this situation, it doesn't help. If he wants sobriety, it's important that he do the work to get there. He needs to experience the consequences of his choices, don't step in to soften things.
Agreed. You get out of his way and let him experience the consequences of his choices. If you don't want to experience the consequences of his choices, you need to get out of his way too. In my case that meant detaching, and later, calling it quits on the relationship. He is still experiencing consequences from his drinking, and I had to minimize the effects of his choices on myself and our children.
Read the stickies:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...c-reading.html
And:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...-recovery.html
This one post was the most helpful to me when I first started this journey. I hope it helps you as well:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...l-problem.html