its def not easy to forgive or forget them....ive gone now with about two and a half months or so with no contact and with my birthday coming up i hear that she wants to get in touch with me...ive ran through so many different scenarios of telling her how i really feel in a vicious return letter, her number is blocked so email is the only way, or just keep with the no contact and be the bigger person...i want her so bad to know the anger and hurt that i have but in the long run what does it really do for me...i think i made the decisions i made in the relationship because like everyone else here it seems i had hope that it would turn out differently. at the end of the day i think as long as i can close my eyes and sleep knowing that i did the right things by her that the next person im in a relationship with reap all of the benefits that she choose to ignore. just keep plucking along one day at a time...