For me, AVRT and recognizing the voice behind my addiction was a key.
One very strong motivation was to be there for my kids, really there, in body and in mind.
I spoke to a very ardent supporter of the big recovery club about the fact that the meetings almost always coincided with family time, and the dinner time in my home. I stated unequivocally that to make amends to my family meant being there, not sitting around with a bunch of drunks. After all, that's where I had been for the last thirty years.
And he agreed.
I do go to some meetings now, but I really didn't at all for months of recovery. Now it's about working on some personality defects, but I sincerely believe that I am a recovered alcoholic.
Many many things work, and some people really cling to what worked for them, understandably. But I have adopted a multi tiered approach to my own recovery. I am an individual, with unique experience, so I take what works, and truly leave the rest.
Don't let anyone tell you that you have to listen to their way. There IS no one true path to the exclusion of all else.