Hi EM -- I don't believe there is only one way to stay sober.
We are all different, with our own unique combinations of personality, biology, past decisions, life circumstances.... It seems to me that there can't be a "one size fits all" here.
Don't feel bad about looking for what works for you.
In my experience, those with long term sobriety find an approach that brings them a sense of peace and freedom. I hope you find that.
