Lizatola-
What a great opportunity for your recovery.
When my loved one was the person I remembered and wanted him to be it was harder for me to stay the course on me, to me and for me. It was easy to get swept away in the charm that my exAH came with.
It was so much easier to focus on me when he was behaving cruely, or the worst for me was when he was just checked out. It was easier to focus on me, work, recovery then. It was easier to trust myself and set (and keep) appropriate boundaries then too.
Reading what you wrote this is a great chance to keep your recovery in action....regardless of if this is a vaneer or is this is begining of actual change. Cause in the long run his true colors will show themselves. It won't matter when you keep working on you.