Originally Posted by
ACOAHappyNow 
My father had narcissism going on along with the alcoholism so the list is really very long. There are some things that would have had me taken from the family for protection, had anyone known.
So I think it is really okay for me to just take care of myself at this point.
I'm the adult child of alcoholic parents that will never stop drinking. I had to cut them off years ago, only letting my mother contact me via email. I got so tired of feeling like I was less than because my mother would get drunk and tell me what I disappointment I am. My dad was very violent, and as the other poster said, it's not normal to be scared to death of a parent. All you can do is forgive them, it is a disease, but you don't have to continue to have it be a part of your life. Abuse is abuse no matter physical or mental, and it's okay to walk away from it. Forgive him in your heart and accept that he doesn't want to change. Make your life the best life you can have.