I was terrified of both father and mother, but father always made things right afterwards...mom just cut me off and took years to get over her anger and silent treatment (even as a child)--she didn't speak to me for 4 years after I married hubby (yep, she didn't like him...and although she came around...lots of scars). After Dad died, it was 8-9 years before she spoke to me...I had to stop going to the one day a year (Christmas) I was invited--because I couldn't handle it anymore. Now, 4 years later...went no-contact in February. Sometimes our husbands are a lot wiser than we give them credit for....my husband tried to tell me for years.