Liz, if I am speaking out of line....then my bad..and I will apologize. But, from where I sit, it looks like your hp thinks you are ready for this when he allowed you to see the separation papers with his intentions written down.
I'll tell you a story about someone I know. One night, many years ago, I awoke, well after midnight to the sound of my (departed) husband yelling "You stupid son-0f-a-*****!!!!!"
It seems that his campaign manager had called him in a panic--he had left his briefcase open on the dining room table, His wife went in, looking for a pen, and discovered pictures of him and his mistress together--his mistress of 5yrs!! Well, the distraught wife went to the Priest and the Priest convinced her to stay with the marriage. In a subsequent conversation my husband's associate revealed that he was growing "tired" of the mistresse's pressure for him to leave the wife. So. he "accidently" left the pictures in a prominent place. It is funny how these accidents happen.
I'm just saying.......be prepared for any eventuality.
dandylion