Originally Posted by
Markala 
It sounds to me like you have not studied the Big Book. The solution is in working the 12 steps as described in the first 164 pages of the Big Book. If you truly work the 12 steps as outlined in the book you will be clean, sober and happy. This is not so much giving advice as it is telling you what happened to me.
I am a big fan of the steps and I have worked them within the contexts of Al Anon and also AA. Now that being said, there truly was no need to be patronizing toward Midnightblue for what was a lighthearted humorous post about dealing with one's "character defects". If I was brand new and knew nothing about the program, posts like yours would be a big turn off and would keep me away from the fellowship since I tend to steer clear of fanatics and fundamentalists of all persuasions.
OK back to dragon slaying. Where is my sword?