Thanks for the replies.
Many of the comments really hit close to home.
I have really worked at getting rid of the guilt thing for a long time, but this is like the last vestige of it I guess.
What would be really nice would be to be able to have an honest rational conversation with her with the hope of trying to improve our relationship.
Sadly, unless she does quite a bit, including her own recovery, Its not gonna happen.
And yes, I have tried, only to run up against a landslide of codependent enabling crap about my parents and alcoholic rationalization for why things are ok the way they are.
I am blamed for rocking the boat, and being intolerant.
Well, part of my being a healthy person is not tolerating unhealthy behavior, and I make no excuse for it or apologize for my intolerance of it. I refuse to be complicit in their collective denial and lies.
So I guess what can I do? Not too much. Thanks for listening.