Originally Posted by
DoubleBarrel 
It occurs to me that many of the dysfunctional ways we relate to each other is due to growing up in a dysfunctional home with our folks setting us up to not get along.
Has anyone else dealt with this?
Boy that sums it up in a nutshell. Our parents did set it up so we had no backup or troops to conquer with. I have next to nothing to do with my siblings, I guess we all prefer it that way. We don't actively hate each other and do gather for an occasional funeral or wedding and are civil. But we just are not really like siblings at all, not in the least. I've waited a lifetime for it to change but it hasn't.