((((boilerchic)))) Best of luck to you and to him. Get yourself off to the Al-Anon meetings ASAP too! They aren't about him and this isn't about him... this is about you.
i watched my aunt die of this disease when i was 7 years old, i refuse to let the same thing happen to him.
That in a nutshell is the problem. You cannot do anything to help him. He can only help himself. A word of advice, if you want children take very very slow steps in this relationship and get lots of counseling for both of you. Someday if you have kids, they will need to be your first priority in possibly protecting them from an alcoholic father. I'm not saying he will not succeed in recovery, but that there is nothing you can do to keep him in recovery.
Try this phrase and keep it in mind: "i watched my aunt die of this disease when i was 7 years old, i refuse to let the same thing happen to my children".
faith