Hi,
your reasons are my reasons. Except you are planning on having the talk tonight and I havent crossed that line yet. I have a few more years on you (29) and it doesnt get any easier. I do believe that if and when I pull the trigger I will have the understanding, but maybe not the approval of my children. They also flucuate between telling me to toss her to love being around her. But I think that is pretty typical since she is their mother. So dont be too hard on yourself
grizz