Liz, I had to walk away from this a bit. Had to think. That conversation with your H was just so familiar. So what did you get out of it?
You would bring up things, he knocked them down.
I had many of these conversations. I was just thankful that he didn't explode, or rage at me. He would be calm. I would walk away thinking it was a good conversation.
Later on I started to doubt myself, I would tape those conversations, then I would listen to them over and over.
What your H said was absolutely nothing, except that you and your son are his problem.
He didn't say he was going to stop drinking, didn't say he would listen to his doctor, said he didn't want a divorce, didn't say what he would do, said what you should do.
And my head is still spinning. I may have to take aspirins and lay down for you.