AH has not spoken to me in 2 and a half years except to send threatening emails.
And he's living in your old house with his new girlfriend.
I think those are all very good reason to divorce and move on. I think it was LaTeeDa who said that confusion is mainly the result of magical thinking -- and reality is pretty straightforward. You can feel hurt, sad, betrayed, grieving, anger -- but the reality is,
he has moved on and is not coming back.