Hello Steavi, Welcome to SR!
Oh, how I wish I could tell you that there were some magic program, some magic words you could tell him to get him to stop--there aren't. One of our moderators has a saying "If love could cure addiction, none of us would be here" (-Ann).
There are many different recovery programs apart from AA nowadays. SMART, Life-Ring, S.O.S., Rational Recovery, or Individual Therapy with an addiction counselor. Some of these programs offer on-line meetings (no sitting in a group required).
Make yourself at home here! Read all the threads you can--especially the 'stickies' at the top of each forum page. There is so much great information and support here! Welcome, again.