AH went to A and E on Monday night via ambulance. He has now been transferred to a specialist hospital for brain injuries. They seem to think he has had bleed on the
brain. They want to do an operation to drain some of the blood. He is very confused and I haven't been able to speak to him. He doesnt' understand the operation but the medical team so that wouldn't stop them from operating as long as I give my permission. They also said they had had good results with patients getting some of their intellect back but not all of it!
He had fallen in the cat house around 10 days ago but didn't seem to know if he had hit his head or not. He had gone to the doctor and said she examined him and didn't want him o have a scan. But he got more and mofre confused as time went on - lawn mower was a hoover and was going to put pen on charge - didn't seem to know if it was 7am or 7pm! Lost keys and forgot they were hanging in key box! I did eventually get him to phone NHS direct but he was so muddled they asked him to put me on and then insisted on sending amubulance.
Really worried what will happen when he comes home. Will he keep drinking? Will he take his pills? I feel I am going to end up as a carer which would be ok if he co-operates but will he? I also think any brain surgery is risky so at 74, can I be sure he will survive but what other option is there? I have been told is brain has shrunk. I also wonder if some of the behaviour problems have been due to the blood building up?
At least I know I am not going mad and there was something wrong and my instincts were spot on which guess is some kind of relief. I have lovely friends who have been very neglected by me recently but are still there for me - AH doesn't want me to leave house and has threatened to let cats out - he is so doddery I worry he may do this by accident anyway.
I am going to make the most of the next few days of freedom! God only knows what the future holds for me. I am going to see my friend who has ad a lovely new black kitten today, hairdo tomorrow and I will hopefully get to seem my father for more than 10 mins! I also hope to do a cat show on Saturday -selfish maybe but I don't know when I can show again if I end up a full time carer.
I have been very touched and at times humbled by the postings in this site - so many people are really struggling and are doing the very best they can. Unless you live with an alcoholic, you just do not understand the daily challenges it involves.